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Dear Flist:
I love y'all to death, but please to be stopping with the so-darn-active behavior when I'm not around to condone your spamming tendencies. Thank you.
Lotsa love, me.
-Moving on. We had to do this sex-ed thing in that high school I used to counsel for, and oh my god! the things a gilr's gotta listen to get her license to actually listen. There was this one girl who approached me personally after the main event (a lecture on safe sex, the advantages and procedures of, and then some Q&A session that featured the little genius who was yet to figure out how very not-pregnant anal sex can get you) and asked me about the common, early symptoms of pregnancy, to then sigh in relief when I failed to include dry hands into the enumeration.
There was a lot of restrain on my part -and I really feel like I deserve a medal or something- in order to quash the impulse/need of repeatedly hitting my head against the desk right there because of forms and also, the girl really didn't know, and this is where my beef is, she was having sex (actively, as this one would appear to be at least the second freak out about a possible pregnancy) and not know what to look for in case there's something to be looked for, not to mention to allow that case in the first place! (clearly I did make a point out of individual hormone cycles and body chemistry, it was possible that in her, dry hands could mean a significant change in her body balance, but since I have very basic knowledge on that area it wouldn't be wise to just stay with my opinion and go to a doctor, then she specified it had been five months since her last period. That is just out of my hands, sent her to a doctor anyway, because it is a reason to be worry)
It's sex people, it is a serious issue and it is a big deal. Why is that so hard to understand? With sex comes a number of responsibilities that just cannot be overlooked in favor of praying and dancing under the moon, because that's just way less blush-inducing than going to a local library and borrow that little book with pictures in it. I mean, information is right there, all you gotta do is get over yourself and just go get it.
A guy came over after that and asked me if being a christian (I wear a crucifix around my neck) I considered sex a sin/crime. I asked him if he had a regular partner, if said partner was somebody else's official partner, if there had been raping involved, being these cases, imo, the ones that would step into sin/crime scenery (also the ones I could come up with at the moment to illustrate the point). Other possibilities involved ill intentions towards his partner and/or a possible third party, fear and insecurity in his relationship with his partner, insecurities about his own sexuality and some other potential situations that would have more to do with personal conceptions and, maybe, morality, than with the more general rules of religion and/or laws. Needless to say, after this I was pulled out from the table by the head professor to be lectured on the proper ways of answering that kind of dangerous questions. In his opinion, such questions should be answered in home, but then again, if there were answers back home, why would sex-ed be necessary in the first place? If there were answers back home, why would these questions be posed at all? So, in conclusion, the educational system kicks the ball into the family court, and the family neatly dodges it dumping the responsibility back on the school.
At the end of the day, it's the kids' fault that the hospital needs a especial wing to treat the ever-increasing amount of pregnancies and STD cases in teens (with an age range of thirteen to twenty-one years old)
I came home to sulk. Oh, the state of this world!
Dear Flist:
I love y'all to death, but please to be stopping with the so-darn-active behavior when I'm not around to condone your spamming tendencies. Thank you.
Lotsa love, me.
-Moving on. We had to do this sex-ed thing in that high school I used to counsel for, and oh my god! the things a gilr's gotta listen to get her license to actually listen. There was this one girl who approached me personally after the main event (a lecture on safe sex, the advantages and procedures of, and then some Q&A session that featured the little genius who was yet to figure out how very not-pregnant anal sex can get you) and asked me about the common, early symptoms of pregnancy, to then sigh in relief when I failed to include dry hands into the enumeration.
There was a lot of restrain on my part -and I really feel like I deserve a medal or something- in order to quash the impulse/need of repeatedly hitting my head against the desk right there because of forms and also, the girl really didn't know, and this is where my beef is, she was having sex (actively, as this one would appear to be at least the second freak out about a possible pregnancy) and not know what to look for in case there's something to be looked for, not to mention to allow that case in the first place! (clearly I did make a point out of individual hormone cycles and body chemistry, it was possible that in her, dry hands could mean a significant change in her body balance, but since I have very basic knowledge on that area it wouldn't be wise to just stay with my opinion and go to a doctor, then she specified it had been five months since her last period. That is just out of my hands, sent her to a doctor anyway, because it is a reason to be worry)
It's sex people, it is a serious issue and it is a big deal. Why is that so hard to understand? With sex comes a number of responsibilities that just cannot be overlooked in favor of praying and dancing under the moon, because that's just way less blush-inducing than going to a local library and borrow that little book with pictures in it. I mean, information is right there, all you gotta do is get over yourself and just go get it.
A guy came over after that and asked me if being a christian (I wear a crucifix around my neck) I considered sex a sin/crime. I asked him if he had a regular partner, if said partner was somebody else's official partner, if there had been raping involved, being these cases, imo, the ones that would step into sin/crime scenery (also the ones I could come up with at the moment to illustrate the point). Other possibilities involved ill intentions towards his partner and/or a possible third party, fear and insecurity in his relationship with his partner, insecurities about his own sexuality and some other potential situations that would have more to do with personal conceptions and, maybe, morality, than with the more general rules of religion and/or laws. Needless to say, after this I was pulled out from the table by the head professor to be lectured on the proper ways of answering that kind of dangerous questions. In his opinion, such questions should be answered in home, but then again, if there were answers back home, why would sex-ed be necessary in the first place? If there were answers back home, why would these questions be posed at all? So, in conclusion, the educational system kicks the ball into the family court, and the family neatly dodges it dumping the responsibility back on the school.
At the end of the day, it's the kids' fault that the hospital needs a especial wing to treat the ever-increasing amount of pregnancies and STD cases in teens (with an age range of thirteen to twenty-one years old)
I came home to sulk. Oh, the state of this world!
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Date: 2007-09-20 08:54 pm (UTC)I think that missing the point *is* the whole point. Or it feels like it sometimes.
Hehehe, *that* they do remember! So not fair.
Exactly. There's always the hope we're different from our parents, but then, that's the example in parenting we've been more preeminently exposed to, so how far away from it can we wonder off?
My mother gave one wherein seeds and women's wombs featured, she wasn't very crude (I was four) but all she left out was the role of the penetration itself, so when some other kid asked about it in school a few weeks later, I, being the smart kid that I was, told her and the entire class my mom's version which landed me in the principal's office while my mom got told for not performing her duty properly ::eyeroll:: As you can see, my issues with principals started early.
I mean that in many, many cases, the kids I've spoken to are terrified of being naked, even more that they are of the possible outcomes of sex, I remember eluding the situation myself solely on the fact that I'd have to be naked for it to work. So if this is the way it goes for teenagers, imagine the images that most present themselves in the mind of a fifth grader when they're Health teacher comes up and talks about intercourse. According to my theory, it's also embarrassing for said teacher to speak about it.
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Date: 2007-09-20 09:15 pm (UTC)With my mum, it was like being in the Principal's office. I think in all my innocence :D, I said something wrong in front of people and she wanted to sort of shock me. You know act like a principal with the sternness and everything. And thankfully I wasn't young. 12-13, maybe?
Ah okay. Yes, I have noticed that myself too. Despite the fact, that so ans so are doing the act, they are still uncomfortable with nudity. Personally, I feel it's a weird situation but then again, that's just me. I haven't ever really looked at it from someone else's POV.
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Date: 2007-09-20 09:49 pm (UTC)Ouch. That must have been really uncomfortable.
I guess you get used to it as you get used to your partner seeing you naked, but it's still weird when other people is involved somehow (I don't mean anything kinky, remember we're talking about schools and children and parents). It probably depends on the person too, I know those that approach the world with as little clothing as the season permits, and others that are the exact opposite so ::shrugs::
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Date: 2007-09-20 09:56 pm (UTC)Yeah, it was, luckily, it was just me and mom, no viewers.
Yeah, I guess I understand that. I'd kinda in between. I wouldn't mind wearing a tiny skirt or maybe showing a little cleavage (if I had any) but o'er here, you get stared at, no matter what you where. If a completely covered person gets a couple glances, then everyone stares at the girl in a short skirt. So yeah, that would be why i wouldn't be comfortable wearing it out on the roads. But otherwise, I'm not like some people who think a sleeveless shirt in sinful or a red T-shirt means you're trying to attract attention.
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Date: 2007-09-20 10:28 pm (UTC)Well, that's a double awesome, right there.
I get stared at because I'm a jeans person, so even in summer I'm wearing my long jeans and I don't mind, but people seem to think it's just me repressing my femininity, when the opposite is true, I use them because my hips are really wide, so skirts kinda make me look like a triangle, or a whore, depending on how tight/short; jeans shape me out and I get to show off. It is really very subjective. And how did we wind up talking about clothes? (such girls, hehe)