I agree with you. Especially about the family-school court thing. In India, very much so. Here, family members are very hesitant to talk about it. Very. It's all awkward and weird. And usually avoided. And schools try their best but they are seemingly so bad at it.
For example, my sister has just entered college. (We finish schooling at 15 and then two years, a junior college before we can pursue our degree.) Anyway she turns 16 and the end of this month, and I don't know we were watching something or she was reading some book which had smut. Yeah, the book. Now she probably shouldn't be reading it till eighteen but she's a smart kid and she was already halfway through the book. Asking her to stop at this point was not an option. So I thought why not a little, umm, talk. And I asked her if she knew all about it. She said, sorta, but when I ask her to tell me what she knows, it was next to nothing. And when I went on to explain, man, was she shocked and disgusted. Especially when I came to the oral & anal parts of it.
It was embarassing as hell for us both, because well, I can talk about it to my other sister who's just a couple years younger, but this one's half a decade younger and we're just not that close. But I feel better about it knowing that she won't come to know from other weird sources and be even more weirded out.
So yeah, I think that people especially the elders need to be more open about sex, gawd, how many problems would be solved if they just did. HIV is one for sure. You can't blame your kid for being careless when you were not even bothered to sit him/her down because it's an awkward topic. We read about rape, underage sex, teen pregnancy, HIV, STD and a hundred other cases everyday. Can't we just learn that it's better to get it over with today than deal with the consequences for lifetime?
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Date: 2007-09-15 08:55 pm (UTC)For example, my sister has just entered college. (We finish schooling at 15 and then two years, a junior college before we can pursue our degree.) Anyway she turns 16 and the end of this month, and I don't know we were watching something or she was reading some book which had smut. Yeah, the book. Now she probably shouldn't be reading it till eighteen but she's a smart kid and she was already halfway through the book. Asking her to stop at this point was not an option. So I thought why not a little, umm, talk. And I asked her if she knew all about it. She said, sorta, but when I ask her to tell me what she knows, it was next to nothing. And when I went on to explain, man, was she shocked and disgusted. Especially when I came to the oral & anal parts of it.
It was embarassing as hell for us both, because well, I can talk about it to my other sister who's just a couple years younger, but this one's half a decade younger and we're just not that close. But I feel better about it knowing that she won't come to know from other weird sources and be even more weirded out.
So yeah, I think that people especially the elders need to be more open about sex, gawd, how many problems would be solved if they just did. HIV is one for sure. You can't blame your kid for being careless when you were not even bothered to sit him/her down because it's an awkward topic. We read about rape, underage sex, teen pregnancy, HIV, STD and a hundred other cases everyday. Can't we just learn that it's better to get it over with today than deal with the consequences for lifetime?